How Soon Is Too Soon to Sleep with Him?

by Benjamin Todd — October 29, 2007

You guys hit it off too well, too quickly, and the sexual tension is so thick that it is visible to strangers. You're aching to rip his clothes off. There's just one problem; you just met him. You want to play it cool, you want him to be around for a while, and you want him. But when?

This question is the hardest and easiest question to answer. First, you need to ask yourself what you want from him. If you just want his body, then get him drunk and take advantage of the guy (he probably won't mind...unless you leave scars). If you want to date him, if you want him to like you, if you want to have his babies, then relax and give it time.

Any guy who's hitting it off with a girl is usually wondering after the first good date how long it'll be before he gets to sleep with her. If you want him to come around after he's already sampled the goods, then you have to make sure that he likes you enough to want to call you. THAT is the key. You'll know that he likes when you've shown him you're whole person and he continues to hang around. Three dinner-and-a-movie-dates is NOT enough time for him to really know you. No matter how great the conversation or how many obscure connections you have, you can't know each other after just hanging out a few times. Maybe you need to get laid and you can't hold out until he really knows you...go ahead and do him. But if things don't last long after, you've got no one to blame but yourself.

Now, there are exceptions. Maybe he wants to continue having sex with you, and by proximity, he absorbs your personality through osmosis. But I wouldn't put all my eggs in that basket if I were you. Guy's shut off after sex; physically, mentally, and definitely emotionally (alcohol does not change this), it's science.

So, the next time you find yourself craving some new man meat, ask yourself what you really want from him, and then come to an educated conclusion. If he's a keeper, he'll wait. After all, you're worth it.